In which I may have been a jerk

Internet, I need your advice. This has been bothering me for the last three weeks.

Here’s the background.

SSH (That’s Spaceship Husband, for those unfamiliar) and I went to his brother’s wedding a few weeks ago. It was, by all accounts, a positively lovely affair. SSH was one of the groomsmen, so we were there early for pictures. While we were waiting, I asked if my mother in law would take some pictures of us, because we were all dressed up, and because both our families like getting a picture in our holiday cards. She said “Oh, sure! Actually, why don’t I ask the photographer to do it after we take the family pictures?” To which I agreed, without thinking. We were doing big family pictures then anyway, she talked to the photographer, and he took 4 or 5 pictures of the two of us after we’d been standing up with the groom.

Here’s the problem.

My new sister in law is going to have a handful of pictures of US in her WEDDING PHOTOS.

I don’t know if this will bother her. It wouldn’t have bothered me (I liked all the pictures of other people in our wedding photos), but I can’t help but feel like I may have totally without thinking about it been kind of a jerk. I mean, if we wanted professional photos taken, we can afford to get them taken ourselves.

So now I’m not sure what to do. I haven’t seen a link to the pictures yet, so I don’t know if anyone has seen them. I can’t really call the photographer and ask him to delete them. But I don’t want to be like “Hi I’m a selfish jerk” either. Do I call her? Just let it go and not say anything? Am I making a mountain out of an anthill? I’d really like to avoid being a jerk to my new sister in law.

What should I do, if anything?

Oops

Apologies for the post that went up and then disappeared. I’m having some issues with scheduling posts (PEBKAC I assure you). You’ll see at least something resembling that post again later.

9:16 am, March 2

Twenty five years ago yesterday morning (in a world before cell-phones and computers) a young man flew from his home in New Jersey to Cleveland, Ohio for a two day business trip – his last business trip for awhile, since his wife was 8 months pregnant, and that was just asking for trouble.  His wife worked at her job at the medical clinic, and was very excited about her baby shower the next day.

But nature had, it seems, other plans.  At 2am, she went into labor.

The young man’s brother called him at his hotel in Cleveland at 2:30am:

<ringring>
… rrmg hello?
Hey, it’s your brother.  Your wife is in labor.
Yeah right. <hangs up the phone>

<ringring>
Hello?
No really.  I’m not kidding.  She’s at St. Peter’s Hospital, my wife just drove her over there.

So the young man – now very, very awake – tries to figure out how he’s going to get from Cleveland, Ohio to New Brunswick, NJ in time to attend the birth of his first child. He calls the airline – there’s a flight from Pittsburgh, PA to Newark, NJ.  It leaves at 5:30am. He books the flight from his hotel, rents a car, gets directions, and drives (like a bat out of hell) from Cleveland to the Pittsburgh airport.

He arrives at the gate at 5:25am, the last person to board the plane – which they have been holding for him.  Upon entering the plane, he’s asked what seat he wants.

“I want the one closest to the door”

The plane lands in Newark – about an hour away from St. Peter’s Hospital – at 7am, by 7:30 he’s in another rental car, driving (like a bat out of hell) down the interstate. Time, it seems, is on his side.  (As is his wife and her doctor, who are not encouraging speed, knowing that the young man is somewhere between Cleveland and the hospital). At 8:50am, he finally makes it – gets admitted, and is dressed in scrubs for a “high risk” early birth.  He is told she’s been “ready to have this baby for 20 minutes now!”

9:16am, Friday March 2, little squirmy, perpetually-early me makes it into the world, with BOTH my parents in attendance.

(just barely)